If I make you light-bearers, you don’t think I’m going to hide you under a bucket, do you? I’m putting you on a light stand. Now that I’ve put you there on a hilltop, on a light stand – shine! Keep open house; be generous with your lives. Matthew 5:15-16 (MSG)
Veronica Valli | Author & Blogger
Tell us a little about your website/mission/ministry.
It has really evolved over time. I initially wrote a book ‘Why you drink and How to Stop’ to help people understand how an alcoholic thinks and feels. In my experience, the inner life of an alcoholic is very original. We are dominated by fear and our behavior with alcohol is simply a manifestation of how we feel. It’s hard to understand why someone would drink so destructively until you understand that alcohol is just an anesthetic. My blog grew out of needing a platform to promote that. Then it evolved into a place where I could write about anything to do with addiction and mental health as well as promote a positive image of recovery.
What is the number one thing on your bucket list? Will you do it?
Gosh, that’s hard. Right now it’s to write my third book on relationships. I think romantic relationships are very hard for lots of people. A relationship brought me to my knees at three years sober and I have spent decades understanding my patterns and breaking through them. I plan to do an outline of the book by the end of the year.
If you could go back in time, what advice would you give to your younger self?
A very tough question, as in many ways I wouldn’t change a thing because my path brought me here, to you, at this moment. The riches I have today are because of the trials I had when I was younger. I guess if I had to say something it would be to tell my younger self that many of the men I dated were not worthy of me. And that, one day, there would be someone who recognized my true worth. That I would be loved and would love enormously in return. My greatest fear when I was younger, was that I wasn’t going to be loved.
If you could change anything about the world we live in now, what would it be and why?
It would be that we need to understand the significance of attachment and connection. That meaningful connection is as vital to human beings as air and water. But as a culture, we do not value it at all and I think it is at the root of every problem we have. We need to support mothers to attach to their children but also understand that this carries on through every stage of our life. That our societies should be built around being connected to one another (and not just through Facebook).
If you could spend an evening with any fictional character, who would it be? What would you do?
It would be the children from the Narnia books. I loved those stores when I was growing up. The back of every wardrobe should lead to a magical land. I would go on adventures with them and learn how to be noble and brave
I’ve included you because I believe you are bringing much-needed light to this world. Why do you do what you do? What keeps you going every day?
This is my calling, I can’t not do this. I had a successful career in the UK as a therapist, I started and ran my own treatment center. When I moved to the USA with my American husband I floundered a bit because all of a sudden my career disappeared. Then I found this wonderful on-line community that I just love being part of. Getting emails from people who have read my book from all over the world is really one of the most incredible things I have experienced. That’s why I do this every day.